Experts in a recent study on psychological health and relationships are highlighting the subtle but significant effects of gaslighting, a type of emotional abuse that shapes people into doubters of their own reality. Gaslighting, typified by actions including denial and distortion of facts to support the abuser, can cause major psychological suffering. Clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Feldman, who specializes in emotional abuse, says "gaslighting is particularly dangerous because it undermines a person's fundamental trust in themselves and their perspective of the world, which can lead to long-term psychological effects like depression and anxiety."
Since they provide people the knowledge to identify and stop this manipulation in their personal relationships, awareness and education on gaslighting are absolutely vital. Organizations committed to mental health advocacy are emphasizing outreach and support programs that assist victims in spotting symptoms of gaslighting, including continuous denial of their experiences, trivializing of their feelings, and isolation from supportive networks. "The first step towards addressing and healing from this manipulative behavior is realizing the indicators," says Dr. Feldman. With more people realizing the mechanics of gaslighting, less people should suffer in silence—supported by a society that recognizes and helps in recovery.
Here are seven signs that someone might be gaslighting you:
Denial of Your Experience: They flatly deny your version of events, even when you have evidence to the contrary. This can make you start questioning your memory and perceptions.
Twisting Information: The person may twist and reinterpret the facts to blame you for their actions or to make themselves look good, often to the point where you feel you can't trust your own judgment.
Trivializing Your Feelings: They may belittle or disregard your feelings, suggesting that you’re overreacting or too sensitive. This can lead to you doubting the validity of your own emotions.
Using Confusion Tactics: The gaslighter might purposefully confuse you by alternating between affection and hostility, creating a sense of uncertainty and making you doubt your own feelings and instincts.
Projecting Their Faults: If they are lying or cheating, they may accuse you of these very things, creating confusion and making you question your own behavior instead of theirs.
Isolation from Others: They may try to isolate you from friends and family who might support you or validate your perceptions, making you more dependent on their version of reality.
Insisting You Are Mentally Unwell: By telling you or others that you're unstable, crazy, or unable to see things clearly, they undermine your self-trust and strengthen their control over you.
If you recognize these patterns in any of your relationships, it's important to seek support from friends, family, or professionals who can help you assess the situation objectively.
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